Date a man who hasn’t got the money to spoil you or shower you with gifts but finds a way to do it anyway. You can trust that he’ll find a way to touch your heart & make you feel special in new ways. He knows that words and gifts aren’t what matters. Every time you give him something or write to him he will truly treasure it & understand the effort you put in to choosing the gift, the words, or even making it yourself.
Date a man who reads books, who watches films & cartoons, who laughs at stupid jokes & knows when to fall into a reverential silence & drink in the moment with you. You can just be yourself with him & he’ll just be himself. He’ll understand why you love the things you do & he’ll appreciate them & be interested in them too, even his own passions lie elsewhere. He understands your whims & desires, because he’s seen them acted out in his mind. And whatever the scenario, no matter how bad things get, he sees how the story ends. And because he sees how it ends, he knows that all tragedies are overcome, all villains vanquished & fears are banished, no matter how desperate the situation may appear.
Date a man who knows what it takes to stand out from the crowd & who doesn’t mind being judged or thought of as different. That’s why he will never judge you or make lazy assumptions about you. That’s why he will always see you as your own person, as a unique & wonderful individual.
Fail him. Let him down. Hurt him. He’ll do the same to you: but he knows that this is just how things go. He knows that life is made up of ups & downs. He will understand that when you lash out at him or push him away, there are many reasons why. Instead of getting mad or retaliating he’ll try & make things right. He knows when to apologise and admit to making mistakes. He’s also quick to forgive because he knows how easy it is to make mistakes. He understands that your flaws and vulnerabilities make you beautiful & strong.
He knows that perfect harmony doesn’t exist & that nothing is forever. He knows that you see this too: he sees beauty & freedom in this & wants to help you see it too. He knows fear & embraces it. He knows sadness. He knows his many flaws. He is prepared to adapt & to change because he respects your values & your opinions. He knows that nobody is perfect but that doesn’t stop him trying to do his best. He knows that love needs to be worked for, that relationships are a constant flow from love & laughter to arguments & conflict, that like all things the good times come with the bad & that the dancing & loving & laughing are worth the fighting. He wants you to be happy even if it means not being with you, but in his heart he believes that he can make you happy like nobody else & so will do anything to be with you.
Date a man who remembers every little thing about you, who is intuitive, who can see when you’re happy or sad, when you need cheering up or when you want to get away from it all or just forget everything for a while. He sees everything about you. He understands that you’ll be a different person from moment to moment, that you’ll change your mind and your mood without warning. He knows that you can switch between being a baller shot caller, a kawaii otaku, an artistic auteur or a femme fatale in the blink of an eye, an that they are all a part of who you are. He loves & pays attention to each & every aspect of your personality, from the girl who needs to be cuddled & cared for to the woman with her own needs & desires.
Date a man who dreams. Who dreams about you.
Or better yet, date a man who lives his dreams. – Dom Tsui